Depression is the most common emotional struggle people face. Different individuals experience it in different ways, and it can range from mild to severe. Because depression varies so widely, it can sometimes be difficult to identify.
So let’s say your spouse hasn’t been acting like themselves lately. Maybe their demeanor seems downtrodden, or they aren’t interested in things they used to enjoy. Could your spouse be depressed? If so, how can you help them through this challenging time?
Common Signs of Depression
First, it’s important to educate yourself about depression so you can better support your spouse. Depression can vary from mild, circumstantial depression to severe mood disorders, and treatments typically range from counseling to medication. You could start by getting a simple checklist of signs of depression.
These signs can include, but aren’t limited to:
- Appetite changes
- Sleep disruption
- Mood changes
- Feelings of hopelessness
- Losing interest in social activities
- Low libido
Encourage Your Spouse to Get Support
Your spouse must seek support if they’re experiencing depression. A diagnosis from a mental health professional could tremendously improve their quality of life. If your spouse is struggling, professional help is essential–sooner rather than later. Every case is different, but the good news is that it’s possible to improve depression with the right professional help, and maybe even cure it.
Consider having a gentle conversation with your spouse, but be aware that they may resist getting help at first. Don’t treat this lightly, but be mindful of how you approach the topic. You could say something like, “I would love to see you be able to walk through this and come through on the other side.” Let your spouse know how much you love them and care about their well-being.
Offer Your Spouse Comfort and Grace
Many people who experience depression find themselves feeling ashamed or inadequate. It’s common to believe that we should be able to overcome a bout with depression. However, when the heavy emotions continue to linger, it’s easy to sink even deeper.
Remember that no one can simply “snap out of it.” It’s not possible to just “get over” depression like flipping a switch. But your comfort, grace, and unconditional love can help buoy your spouse as you navigate this experience together.
Again, know that when a loved one has depression, it’s bigger than either of your ability to overcome it on your own. Outside, objective help from a mental health professional is crucial. When you work with someone who is trained in treating depression, your spouse has a higher chance of feeling healthy again.
If you need additional support on your journey to better well-being as a spouse, take a look at our book, Healthy Me, Healthy Us. Books can be helpful supplemental materials when life feels challenging. This book is a guide to taking better care of yourself so you can, in turn, experience healthier relationships in all areas.
Has your spouse ever faced depression? If so, you’re not alone. Share your experiences in the comments.
