Do you feel skeptical, cynical, or negative toward marriage? Do you think happily ever after isn’t an option? Whether you’re single or already married, it’s possible that you hold a negative attitude toward marriage. Maybe you grew up in a family where divorce was common, or you weren’t exposed to what a healthy marriage should look like. Perhaps you are already married, but fear it won’t last. If you’re single or dating, you might feel apprehensive about considering marriage. If you’re married, your negative feelings might come out as cynical jokes, hurtful comments, or a generally bad attitude. Either way,…
Does your spouse have an addiction? Wondering what you can do for them? If your spouse is addicted to a substance such as alcohol or prescription drugs, then they may have asked you to help them overcome their struggles. They might expect you to keep the reality of their addiction secret. After all, addiction can be damaging in many ways–not just to relationships and finances, but to reputations, too. Unfortunately, if this sounds familiar, your spouse is asking you to enable their addiction. When you keep your spouse’s problem a secret and don’t seek outside help, you’re depriving yourself of…
Money is one of the most common topics married couples fight about. If managing money is stressful for you, then it can take a toll on your relationship. Since you can’t escape financial discussions, how can you handle the topic without getting grouchy or arguing? Luckily, there are ways to make money conversations less stressful and more productive for both of you. In this post, we’re sharing some tips to help you and your spouse handle money talks in a healthier way. Consider how you both feel about money. It’s a good idea to take a step back and think…
Are you and your spouse self-aware people? If not, cultivating self-awareness can improve both your individual health and the health of your marriage. Being self-aware is all about bringing your very best to your marriage because when you each show up at your strongest, you can accomplish so much more together. Want to know more about how self-awareness can improve your marriage? Read on. 1. Self-awareness promotes empathy and understanding. As you and your spouse develop self-awareness, you’ll be more likely to demonstrate empathy and understanding for one another. We like to say that self-awareness leads to better love. That’s…
Do you want to know your spouse on a deeper level? Gaining a greater understanding of your spouse’s personality (and vice versa) is one way to create more closeness in your marriage. Our inborn personalities are in our genes, and those distinct traits make up the building blocks of who we are. At the same time, the differences in our personalities can get in the way of our harmony from time to time. Misunderstandings and miscommunications can create friction in your marriage. But the good news is, when you know one another on a more intimate level, you’ll have higher…
Have you remarried recently, and are you blending your families? Are you planning to get remarried? Remarrying when one or both of you have children can be a complex journey to embark upon. A third of Americans today are part of a stepfamily structure. When both of a child’s parents remarry, that child has two entirely different immediate families to fit into. And that’s only one of the many possible issues and points of friction that remarriage can bring. At any given time, any member of a blended family can feel a wide spectrum of negative emotions. It’s not uncommon…
In our last post, we shared nine reasons why you shouldn’t rush into marriage or remarriage. Whether you’re getting married for the first time or remarrying after divorce or loss, committing to life with another person is a major step and must be taken with caution. When it comes to remarriage, in particular, there are a few important factors that help determine whether you’re ready to move forward. Even if you’ve thought, prayed, and planned extensively for your remarriage, how do you know whether the timing is right? Today, we’re going to talk about how to know you are ready…
Getting married–whether it’s your first marriage, or whether you’ve been married before–is a major step in your relationship and your life. It’s a decision that will have a ripple effect on your future. Because who you marry so deeply affects the trajectory of your life (and oftentimes, those around you), it’s not a decision you should rush into. There are many reasons why you should approach marriage in a measured, cautious manner. Let’s look at nine of the top reasons why. 1. You’re feeling intense outside pressure. It’s common for unmarried individuals to feel pressure to marry or remarry. Pressure…
When we’re dating, we give the best of ourselves to our partner. We’re getting to know one another, falling in love, and we want to make a good impression. Focusing completely on one another and the future we’re building makes us feel happy and fulfilled. After we marry, though, we sometimes find ourselves giving less than our best to our spouse. Life gets hectic, and there are so many obligations to fulfill. Oftentimes, it happens before we realize it. Whatever the case, it’s crucial to find ways to start giving your spouse the best version of yourself again. You can’t…
Gratitude is an important part of a healthy marriage. It’s crucial for spouses to intentionally cultivate a sense of gratitude toward one another to maintain harmony and happiness in the relationship. If you’re looking for a way to deepen your love and get closer with your spouse, practicing regular gratitude is one way to make that happen. Gratitude, patience, and empathy can carry you through all sorts of challenges in your life together. When you express genuine gratitude toward your spouse, it will resonate with them. And when you make it a habit to do so, you’re creating fertile ground…